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    <title>Is my boyfriend sleeping with his best friend?</title>
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        Are these guys more than just best friends?By Dan Savage...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      Incriminating underwear My boyfriend and his best friend are close. Last summer, I noticed that when my boyfriend gets drunk he tries to grab his friend&#39;s ass, throws his arm around him, and sits close to him. Then one day I found a pair of underwear in our bedroom that belonged to my boyfriend&#39;s best friend. My boyfriend said he didn&#39;t know how they got there. I figured he and his pal messed around and he didn&#39;t know how to
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    <pubDate>Thu, 12 Nov 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>Simply gross</title>
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        Here's hoping this Internet creep is making all this up....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      I&#39;m a 67-year-old woman, almost 68, who has been married four times -- once widowed (with three kids in their 40s who&#39;ve turned out pretty well), divorced three times. I recently met someone online: 48, a wealthy, educated man with two boys, 12 and 14. He lives the cuckoldt lifestyle and is looking for a woman to marry who would participate and enjoy this with him. He says he &quot;craves and needs&quot; this lifestyle, and from what he&#39;s said so
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    <title>I want a threesome with my boyfriend, but I&amp;#39;m jealous when he talks to other girls</title>
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        Woman interested in threesome may have to do the asking....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      Take the lead I&#39;m a 20-year-old girl, and I&#39;ve been dating my boyfriend, who is 23, for two years. From the get-go, he has known that I am bi, and like most straight guys, he&#39;s happy to be with a girl who likes girls. The thing is, I am too shy to go out and hit on a girl. Getting a man was the easy part, but getting a girl who is willing to fuck around not only with me
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    <title>A fitness freak who makes her boyfriend eat junk food</title>
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        Fitness nut weighs consequences of unhealthy kink....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      To feed or not to feed? I&#39;m a 25-year-old girl dating a 26-year-old guy. My boyfriend identifies as sexually submissive. He likes to be tied up, put in women&#39;s underwear, and locked in a chastity device, and he has a strong urge to please. I hate the term, but I suppose you could call me a &quot;feeder.&quot; I am turned on by the idea of someone eating a lot of food, usually junk food, and putting on weight. It&#39;s probably
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    <pubDate>Thu, 29 Oct 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>Zombie sex</title>
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        A query in the spirit of the season...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      Zombie sex A question in the spirit of the season: Can zombie sex ever be consensual? Because I think if confronted with a zombified Zac Efron, I might go for it if he were properly restrained. Can you teach a zombie a safe word? Does it count if it&#39;s &quot;braaaains&quot;? It&#39;s not necrophilia with the WALKING dead, is it? What would you say is the sexual morality of this situation? Hope In Zombie Zac If Ethical If you&#39;d seen Zombieland,
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    <pubDate>Thu, 22 Oct 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>The symptom, not the disease</title>
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        Man inflates his own importance in drama...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      The symptom, not the disease About a month ago, I got drunk and slept with my friend&#39;s girlfriend. (He&#39;s not my best friend, more of a second-tier friend.) We both swore never to tell anyone and left it at that. Only problem is, we&#39;ve been hanging out a lot lately and sending private messages to each other multiple times a day, but nothing physical. It&#39;s progressed to the point that our mutual friends are starting to notice that there&#39;s something
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    <pubDate>Thu, 15 Oct 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>Spreading santorum</title>
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        Influential blog could use volunteers...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      I just had to share with you my first reaction at reading this headline: &quot;Santorum dips toes in 2012 Iowa waters.&quot; My first thought was &quot;Ewwww,&quot; followed quickly by &quot;Is that even possible?&quot; After all, santorum is something that is dipped into, not something that can dip. And then I remembered that before &quot;santorum&quot; meant santorum it actually designated a person, a senator. But it took me a few seconds. Congratulations on a job well done. I expect I am
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    <pubDate>Thu, 08 Oct 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>How do you define &amp;quot;sex?&amp;quot;</title>
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        Clothed encounter leads to different opinions....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      You are known far and wide as an arbiter of all aspects of sex and especially definitions of sex, so we are hoping that you can give your definitive opinion on an interesting conundrum. My wife and I were recently regaling each other with anecdotes from our past, and she easily had the most interesting story: It seems that when she was a young woman in college, a fellow student invited her over for lunch. It turns out that he
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    <title>Dan Savage reads love from the fans</title>
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        Words of thanks from Dan's loyal readers...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      From the fans There was a letter in your column recently that must have been painful for you to receive. I refer to the letter signed God Hates You (CL, Aug. 26). I&#39;m sure you&#39;re no stranger to hate mail, being an openly gay sex-advice columnist, but I hope you get fan mail too. But just in case: I wanted you to know that your column means a lot to me, and I love your bluntness, openness, and honesty. It
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    <pubDate>Wed, 02 Sep 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>Savage Love: Short and sweet</title>
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        Dan lets his readers do the typing...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      Do you think post-op transgender people have any obligation to tell their lovers they were once the other sex? On The Fence Yes. I&#39;m in my 40s and straight. My wife of nine years is no longer interested in sex. Period. She relents every few weeks, but it&#39;s never enjoyable for either of us. As a result, I haven&#39;t had a blowjob in about eight years, I can&#39;t touch her beautiful tits, kissing is without tongue, and our rare sex
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    <pubDate>Wed, 26 Aug 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>I&amp;#39;m fat and afraid of impotence</title>
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        Even these insecure men are capable of finding love....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      This question comes from a point of real frustration. I&#39;m a 26-year-old straight guy. Due to my being overweight, awkward, and generally unable to attract women I&#39;m actually interested in, I have only been sexually intimate with prostitutes and women of low caliber. I have never been able to sustain an erection during intercourse. I&#39;ve climaxed during oral sex or handjobs. I&#39;m not physically accustomed to getting off with anything but my hand. Worst of all, the intense fear of
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    <pubDate>Wed, 05 Aug 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>Mommie dreariest hates that I watch porn</title>
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        Plus, brotherly love with the Jonas clan...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      I am a 21-year-old bisexual female. I&#39;ve never really been close with my mum, and since I moved away from home three years ago it&#39;s gotten worse. I know that she loves me because I&#39;m her daughter, but I don&#39;t think she likes the young adult I&#39;m growing into. Yet she insists I visit her and stay at her house for weeks when I have time off from college so she can talk me out of liking anything she hates.
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    <title>Savage Love: The politics of gay rights</title>
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        When to support a candidate who doesn't support you....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      I&#39;m a 28-year-old heterosexual male with a politics question and a sex question. I&#39;ve seen you on television talking about the shitty job President Obama has done on gay rights so far. My question is this: Obama said he was against gay marriage during the campaign. How could you support a candidate who sees your love as worth less than heterosexual love? I&#39;m surprised that you were such an ardent supporter of someone who doesn&#39;t believe that gay and lesbian
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    <pubDate>Wed, 22 Jul 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>Letting a French guy pay for my trip to Paris</title>
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        Should she stay or should she go?...
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      French kiss Here&#39;s a hypothetical for you: You&#39;ve been corresponding with a handsome young man who lives in Paris. You know him through a friend in France, and your friend has vetted him. He has offered to pay more than half of your airfare so that you can visit him in Paris. You&#39;ve spoken to him on the phone, and hearing him speak to you in French makes your knees weak. On the one hand, you can&#39;t really afford it
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    <pubDate>Wed, 15 Jul 2009 04:00:00 MST</pubDate> 
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    <title>I miss being dominated; should I suggest a threesome?</title>
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        Her old boyfriend can teach her new one some tricks....
       
      
        By Dan Savage
      
      
      Three&#39;s company I&#39;m a 25-year-old straight female. I&#39;ve been dating my boyfriend for only a few months, but we fell in love fast. He is a caring person, and I want to make this last. However, he doesn&#39;t turn me on. It has nothing to do with looks -- he&#39;s GORGEOUS -- but rather with the fact that I am submissive and like things rough (rape fantasies, being tied up, etc.). He is GGG and tries, but he is just
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